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Long-Distance Dating Within Spain: A Practical Guide

Madrid–Barcelona is the world's most-travelled long-distance route. Here's how to make it work.

By The Best Dating Spain Editors··7 min read

Madrid to Barcelona is the single busiest long-distance dating route on the planet. The Renfe AVE covers the six-hundred-kilometre gap in two hours and thirty minutes, and the low-cost Avlo, Ouigo and Iryo services now compete on the same tracks — book on Tuesdays and you can often find return tickets under sixty euros. Treat one weekend a month as a non-negotiable minimum and the relationship stays healthy; skip two months in a row and it usually does not survive the third.

The other viable Spanish long-distance corridors are Madrid to Valencia (1h55), Madrid to Málaga (2h30), Madrid to Seville (2h30) and Barcelona to Valencia (2h55). Anything further — Bilbao, Vigo, Palma, the Canaries — is realistically fly-only, and the cost curve gets steep quickly, which changes the psychology of the relationship.

The three habits that separate couples who survive long-distance from couples who don't: schedule the next visit before the current one ends, keep a shared calendar that both people update, and default to voice notes over text messages. Voice notes carry tone, and tone is what long-distance kills first.

Finally, set an end date. Long-distance within Spain works beautifully for six to twelve months when one person is finishing a job or a lease. It works terribly as an open-ended lifestyle. Have the conversation about which city you'll live in together by month three, or accept that you probably won't ever have it.

"Madrid–Barcelona is the world's most-travelled long-distance route. Here's how to make it work."
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Written by the Best Dating Spain editorial team and reviewed before publication by a relationship coach based in Madrid. We test every app ourselves and never accept sponsored placements.

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